Break through your limits

How to Break through Self-imposed Limits and Start Winning at Life

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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”  - Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Along any growth or self-development journey, it eventually becomes obvious that the biggest enemy you have is you. 

Limiting beliefs, negative habits, lack of focus, undefined goals, procrastination, and no accountability - there really isn’t anyone in the way of your growth besides you. 

How often do you put off your own progress and focus elsewhere because it's easier than facing the reality of what you need to do, to work on your growth? It can become so overwhelming that we tend to avoid holding ourselves accountable. 

We doubt our ability to achieve success based on our previous struggles, or the anxiety of unknown outcomes, and even worse, we’re afraid to fail. So we stay small, remain stagnant, and continue to feel unfulfilled.


Here are 7 ways to help you break through your limits...


1. Build Up Your Self-Discipline. 

What do you struggle with most? Good habits? Sticking to routines? Limiting distractions, progress accountability? Observe what holds you back, and decide what you will no longer tolerate from yourself. What behavior should be unacceptable? 

Procrastination, making excuses, not exercising and clearing your mind, indulging, and late-night snacking, maybe some common scenarios in your life for example. When you accept poor behavior from yourself, you’ll get poor results. Start with small improvements and be consistent.

* Make a list of all the things you will no longer do or accept. If you want to rise to a new level in any endeavor, it’s important to eliminate attitudes and behaviors that get in the way.


2. Be responsible. 

Understand the five most important behaviors (actions) to support your future. 

What are five things you can do each day that will transform your life? Align your behaviors with your goals and be responsible for doing something each day. A few examples:

  • Prioritize self-care and mindfulness daily - Morning Routine for Successful Entrepreneurs
  • Cold call or email at least 10 potential clients each day.
  • Eat less than 2500 calories and drink more water.
  • Perform 50 pushups and walk for 20 minutes.
  • Write one chapter, or even just one page of the book you want to publish.

* The things you do each day matter. If you look at your average current day, it’s easy to see why your life is exactly as it is. What can you do each day that will guarantee progress? 

* Don't worry if you aren't perfect. Missing a day here and there doesn't mean you failed and should quit, it means you have to keep trying harder. Get back on track.


3. Set your goals.

Make your goals bigger and better and stick with them. Start with the worst parts of your life that need to change. It’s the lowest-rated parts of your life that create your limits and stifle your happiness. Then, set bigger goals you want to strive for. 

What does success mean to you? Ending toxic relationships, growing your business to 7 figures, finally starting that business you’ve had on your mind for years, changing careers, moving to a new place to connect with nature more often, or training for a triathlon. 

* Raise your standards. Most people set goals that are too small. Set bigger goals and then work backward to figure out the steps to reach them. With a good plan, persistence, and hard work, you can build momentum and achieve goals faster.

“Personal development is a major time-saver. The better you become, the less time it takes you to achieve your goals.” – Brian Tracy 


4. Keep Learning.

Identify three things you need to learn this year to help you make progress. Where are you lacking? What skills do you want to develop or strengthen? You should always be learning something, but ensure you’re learning what will matter the most to your improvement.

* Don’t allow yourself to get distracted by nonsense on social media or email. Instead, use those sources to learn and grow. The content you consume can either distract you or help you.

* Find a good book to read, listen to something on Audible, find a podcast that would benefit you to listen to, attend helpful webinars, commit to a course, and find a good mentor.


“Learn as if you were not reaching your goal and as though you were scared of missing it.” ― Confucius


5. Enhance your ability to focus.

If you can’t focus, you can’t accomplish much of anything. But the good news is, focus is a lot like a mental muscle. The more you work on building it, the stronger it gets.

The ability to focus comes with practice, and also becomes easier the more organized you are.

* Learn to meditate or practice mindfulness, and spend time in nature to reconnect.

* Write things down, schedule everything on your calendar, and maybe even try using a timer. 

* Stop multitasking - Trying to focus on more than one thing at a time reduces your productivity by as much as 40%.

* Get more sleep, and eat healthier - it's proven how important your health affects your ability to focus.


6. Evaluate each day in writing. 

At the end of the day, review your progress, and check your list(s).

What did you accomplish? Set your intentions for the next day. What did you allow that should have been unacceptable? Try again to be more responsible tomorrow. Promise yourself to do fewer of the wrong things and more of the good things going forward. 

*Make a list of your priorities for the day the night before. At the end of the day, check off what you accomplished and move anything you didn't do over to the next day's list. If you keep moving the same things. Figure out why you can't get it done. Maybe you need to break it into smaller steps. Maybe you don't know where to start, so ask for help or research a solution. 

*Bullet Journaling has been a lifesaver for me. Learn more about Bullet Journaling here - (be sure to watch the tutorial!)


7. Find a good mentor.

Good mentors support, encourage, and provide guidance for your transformation. It’s one of the best ways to level up and rise above your perceived limitations.

* You think you know your weaknesses, but you only see (and admit to) some of them. Your ego is hiding them from you.

* Your confidence may not be as strong as it should be. In fact, looking within and asking for guidance on your strengths and weaknesses could help you humbly build your confidence.=

* A mentor is essential to help you get further, faster.

You know you can do better than you have been. We’d like to think there’s a secret to succeeding - a quick trick that will suddenly make our dreams come true. But the truth is uglier - It’s necessary to dig into your weaknesses and get to work on yourself.

The growth you want is very possible for you. You must decide that you’re all in on making it happen. Don't let anything stop you from achieving your goals. Successful people understand this.

It's a constant battle, though - perceived limitations resurface or new limiting beliefs try to infiltrate. But once you have awareness of this and you implement ways to help you block them out or break through them when you're down, your success will always prevail.

You are your greatest enemy when it comes to your growth. 

Raise your expectations and personal standards. Evaluate yourself daily and find a good mentor. Break through your self-imposed limits and success will be yours!

What's next for you? Are there obstacles holding you back?...

Yes, I don't know how to make progress